Sometimes I struggle with being patient to get married but God continues to remind me that He is giving me a chance to mature and to prepare myself as much as possible for serving and blessing the man that, Lord willing, I will marry.
Of course, I didn’t always feel this way about marriage. A book my parents gave me helped me to start seeing things differently. The name of the book is Beautiful Girlhood revised by Karen Andreola. I would like to share a short story from it that I like to remember when I get impatient:
“Mary Wells often felt that her life was made hard because she was not allowed to go out into young company as Bessie Wilson did. They were about the same age, neither of the girls being yet sixteen. Mary was treated as a little girl in that she seldom was allowed out at night, never ‘went with the boys’, was kept regularly in school and was referred to as Mrs. Well’s little daughter.
Bessie, on the other hand, dressed like a young woman, was often out to parties and theaters, had a sweetheart, and passed among the older girls as one of them. In school, Mary was ahead of Bessie, who was about ready to quit because she was “tired of school” and had so little time for it.
“Papa,” said Mary one day, “I am as old as Bessie Wilson; I am in a higher class in school, and I am as tall as she is, yet I am not allowed to do the things she does, but have to look and act like a child. When are you going to let me grow up?”
“Mary, do you remember that lily that blossomed here in the window so early this spring?”
“Yes, but it is dead now. It seemed to give its whole strength to make that one blossom. It looked pretty then, but really those that blossomed later at the proper time were prettier,” said Mary.
“That is just what I want you to remember. That lily was pretty, but it was forced along too fast, blossomed before its time, and died. That is the way with many girls. They blossom before their time. I want my daughter to come to her full, mature beauty.
“Do you mean that Bessie is blossoming too young?” asked Mary.
“When you come to the fullness of your youth, when you are like a rose in full bloom, poor Bessie will already be fading.”
Mary said no more, but she watched, and her father’s prophecy was true. When Mary came to the full beauty of her young womanhood, Bessie was already a disappointed young wife, with her health gone.”
(from chapter 25, page 160)
God knows what is best and He has given us a time of preparation. It is up to us how we spend that time. And it is also our choice to decide what kind of flower we plant.
“Let him who is taught the word share in all good things with him who teaches. Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.” – Galatians 6:6-8
“… Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ has also loved us and given Himself for us, an offering, and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma …” – Ephesians 5:1-2.
Like a beautiful flower in full bloom.
(This article was originally published in Volume1 Number2/Summer 2008. You can request the entire issue in PDF on this page.)
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