Come and listen to a story … a true story of how if you seek, you will find; if you trust in God, though the world tells you differently, there is victory; and if you share how you are weak, others see how He is strong. This is a story in which God gave me many blessings through a hard lesson.
For a long time I had been trying to wait for my love but I was struggling to prepare myself for marriage. It seemed as though there were no examples to follow. I had looked in many books and read many women’s testimonies. They all inspired me in different ways but none seemed to have what I was looking for, although honestly, I wasn’t quite sure for what I was looking … but I knew that I needed to find it.
There was one place in which I thought I would for sure find the answer and that was the Bible. I searched for examples of unmarried women, to see what they had done, but I only found the story of Ruth, which hardly applied to me. Even the Bible verses I found about women and marriage were about women who were already married. I was very disappointed! God’s word was my guide and my light. Why couldn’t I find guidance about something so important?!
In my confusion, I prayed to my Father. I asked Him to help because I didn’t understand. Where was I to look for direction, if not the Bible? And He answered me. His spirit comforted mine, as a father comforts his child, and He opened my eyes to what I could not see.
Yeshua and His bride are not only a perfect example of betrothal and marriage but also of the time before betrothal. If we look at God’s chosen people from Abraham on down, we see an example of Biblical purity, faith and mercy. This should be after what we model our own lives, as young, unmarried women.
They had faith that Yeshua would come, even though He didn’t come in Abraham’s time, or Joseph’s, or David’s, or the prophet’s. The righteous continued to have faith and waited about 1,917 years!!! But, without our Father’s mercy and love, they would have never made it. The children of Israel strayed away from God over and over and over; forgetting His promises and “marrying” themselves to false gods. But the Lord corrected them every time, forgiving all who returned to Him and reminding them of His promises. Not only that, but He gave them signs for which to look so they would be able to know who Yeshua was.
As my Father showed me these things, it gave me great hope and encouragement. I would like to tell you why in detail, but I must state that … well … it’s quite difficult for me to do so, because I have to share some very personal things. But at the same time, I’m quite excited to share how wonderful God has been to me. So here it goes …
As a young girl, I made up my mind to save my love for the man I was to marry. That meant no dating or boyfriends, and treating young boys as my “brothers”. But there was one boy, a good friend, that I liked and it caused me to have a problem … because I didn’t know if this boy was to be my husband. I desperately did not want to fall in love with someone I wasn’t going to marry! So I began to pray about it a lot, asking God to help me wait and to do His will. It was hard, especially during the many times that one or another of my good friends would tell me that they liked him too, but God always got me through it and I never lost a friend.
I’m not sure why but what happened next must have been for the best. After about seven years, I realized my attraction for him had turned into a deep love for him. I hated admitting it, because at the same time I was also realizing that we were not meant for each other and he was falling in love with someone else. Now you might think that this was a recipe for destruction but God did something amazing! He turned it right around to a victory!! How did He do it? Well … the woman with whom this guy was in love was already a good friend of mine and we both loved the Lord, so we prayed together that God’s Will would be done.
We prayed about it and for each other for about a year. During this time I went through what some call “heartbreak”, though I think that it feels more like your heart is dying and you are mourning for a lost loved one. Sadly, there were many times that I wanted to just give up, but my loving Father would not let me and saved me many times. He started to heal me and show me there was still hope … Sweet Hope. He also helped me to see that my love had blinded me to some things about that young man and me which would have made it hard for us to be married. And He replaced my deep pain with great joy for my friends.Then, after about a year and a half, I was an excited bridesmaid at their wedding!! All I can say is – Amazing! God is so amazing! I am still filled with wonder and joy at all He did.
Do you see how the things God was teaching me were so encouraging? God kept Israel from complete destruction, in spite of themselves. And because I chose to trust in Him, He turned something that could have destroyed me, into something that not only made me stronger, but also gave me a stronger bond with God, a much closer relationship with my two friends and a good experience to share with others.
His lesson, about Yeshua’s bride, also gave me hope because, in spite of Israel’s shortcomings, He still kept His promises to them … one of the greatest being that of Yeshua’s coming and salvation through Him. Because I personally know that God wants me to be a wife and mother, He will bring my love and me together in His timing. Even though I sometimes forget the promise and even though I’m not worthy, God keeps His promises.
But it doesn’t stop there. Our Father not only kept His promise of Yeshua, but He also gave us signs and prophecies of His Son’s coming, so that we would be able to recognize Him. I have written down a list of hopeful and essential qualities and character traits that I would like my future husband to have and I have been praying that, if it be God’s will, I would be able to recognize my love through these “signs”. I can’t say that everyone should do this, but I think it would be worth taking into prayerful consideration. I also made a list of qualities that I should have and I have been praying that God would help me to acquire them. Thank the Lord, because I am slowly seeing my prayers answered one by one!
Some signs that all of us should look for in a man are:
• A true love for our Heavenly Father (true, meaning his love would show in his obedience/actions toward God).
• Faith in Yeshua our Messiah.
• Contentment (don’t confuse with apathy).
• Respect (such as – for parents).
• Love (such as – for children).
Those are a few of the many important qualities. Remember, no one is perfect but if he is a true son of God, he will have Yeshua in his heart and this will shine through brighter than anything else because he will be following God’s will for his life and be bringing glory to God. Being a companion/helpmeet for such a man would be a great honor. Just think … serving God together in love and respect, bringing glory to Him all your life! And raising children who are courageous and steadfast in the Lord! What a blessing!! What a calling!
Another example to remember is that as Yeshua is the bridegroom, Satan is the antichrist! Satan is the one who wants to use us and destroy us. There are such men in this world. I pray you have someone to protect you from men like this because, since Satan is their master (even though they might not know that he is), they are very good at deception. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you, resist the devil and he will flee from you. Our Heavenly Father can protect us no matter what our situation is but He did create a perfect plan in which we are protected. God gave us earthly fathers to protect and guide us and I am blessed to have a very protective father. I am praying that God will guide my Dad to only give his permission to marry me to the man whom God wills so that I may respect my Dad and put my trust in God. The battle belongs to the Lord, He is our shield and our strength and He promised to never leave us nor forsake us.
So live to give glory and honor to God. Remember to not give up; have faith that if God’s Will for you is marriage, it will happen!! Have faith that, despite our faults, He keeps His promises. Marriage is not something we can earn, for no one is righteous, no not one. Marriage is a gift of God. May we, Lord willing, be able to recognize the men God wants us to marry by looking for the “signs”. To do so, we need to follow God and draw near to Him so that Satan can’t deceive us and destroy us.
These are some of the examples (and I am sure there are more) that God showed me and set on my heart to share with you. Read your Bible; see how God keeps His promises to His beloved children … see the wonder of God.
Shalom and Sincerely,