Did you know that there is a blessing specifically for daughters in the scriptures? There is! And as far as I know, there is only one! It is found in Psalms 144:12b, where we read; “that our daughters may be as cornerstones, polished after the similitude of a palace.”
What a picture! We, as daughters, are to be like cornerstones, or columns, or pillars. As a carpenter’s daughter and with the small amount of architectural knowledge that I have, I am aware that the supports in the corners of a building are absolutely essential. If you don’t have the necessary support in the corners, you don’t have a building.
So if we daughters are to be like columns or pillars in a palace, how does that apply in our daily lives? I believe that it is very clear through various biblical passages and scriptural accounts, that a daughter’s place is in her home, under her father’s authority, serving her family. I simply do not see any other option in the scriptures – if anyone is familiar with one, I would be glad to hear it.
With that being said, I believe that the picture we are given in this verse, is a description of what a righteous daughter should be – a pillar in her home, providing vital support to her family. This can be physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. I would like to share some practical ways that we, as daughters, can be a support to our family. Please understand, I am not making any claims on completion and perfection! I am writing this to myself, as much as to anyone else.
One of the most important things is that we have a content and pleasant attitude.
•“… for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.” Philippians 4:11b
•“But godliness with contentment is great gain.” 1 Timothy 6:6
•“And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.” 1 Timothy 6:8
•“Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” Hebrews 13:5
•“Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say, Rejoice.” Philippians 4:4
•“Rejoice evermore.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16
•“Do all things without murmurings and disputings:” Philippians 2:14
When we are discontent, complaining and grumbling, we are not a blessing. Our attitude speaks loudly to our siblings. If we complain about decisions that our parents make and are not respectful to them, we are serving as very poor examples for our siblings. If we grumble about our surroundings, food, clothing … whatever it may be, we are in effect, tearing down our houses. Always look for the positive, both in situations and individuals.
This is an incredible way that we can support our families. I am trying to make a habit of praying for each member of my family. How would you feel if you knew that someone was lifting you before the Throne and praying blessings for you regularly? I know that I am always encouraged to hear that someone is praying for me. In Colossians 1:3, Paul said; “We give thanks … praying always for you”. What a goal to work toward!
A Servant’s Heart:
•“But he that is greatest among you shall beyour ser vant.” Matthew 23:11
•“But now being made free from sin, and become servants to God, ye have your fruit unto holiness, and the end everlasting life.” Romans 6:22
•“Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Messiah, doing the will of God from the heart;” Ephesians 6:6
We should have an attitude of servanthood, willing to cheerfully accomplish whatever needs to be done. This can be a struggle for me, as I would often rather do what I want to do, rather than what needs to be done. Spontaneous serving does not come easy for me, but I know it is an essential character trait, and an area on which I need to work. I find it convicting to consider how our Savior came to earth to serve, when, as King and Lord of the earth, He could have demanded service from His subjects. Instead, He gave us an example to follow … a pattern of laying down our lives for others. This is a continual process. If ever push came to shove, most of us would probably be willing to give up our physical lives for our family members. For some reason though, it is much more difficult to die to ourselves on a daily basis!
Colossians 3:23 says; “And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men”.
As daughters, we have the privilege of helping our families in a physical way. As each family differs, there is not one set pattern that will fit each one. For those of you who have young siblings, I encourage you to help out with caring for their needs. This can sometimes be a difficult task, but it won’t last forever. I can remember being frustrated at trying to lay down a little one for their nap, and being “stuck in the bedroom” because he/she wouldn’t go to sleep as quickly as I wanted him/her to! At another time we may have been at a meeting and my mother asked me to take a fussy baby out to walk around. It was not fair! I wanted to be in there with everyone else! Why did I have to take the baby out? Somehow I guess I didn’t think about all the times that my mother may have had to take me and several of my other siblings out of meetings, before any of us were old enough to help! Or we might have been with friends and instead of getting to sit and visit with the adults, I had to go out and keep an eye on the little ones.
Let me tell you … this stage of life won’t last forever! My youngest sibling is now seven years old and oh how we miss having a little one around. Enjoy your young siblings while you have them. One day, you won’t be together … what type of impact will you have left on them? When they remember their older sister, what will they remember? It is sobering to consider.
There are plenty of other ways that we can help out in our homes. Our mothers have a lot of responsibility and we ought to work to lighten the load. It may be possible for you to do this by taking responsibility for some of the regular household chores. For instance, when we started school the fall after I had graduated (we are all home-schooled), my mother asked me to take responsibility for the laundry. This was a task that did not take a lot of time and effort on my part, but it freed her up by giving her one less thing to get done.
Often my sisters or I will take responsibility for preparing one of our meals. This is another great way to help out, since my mother can focus her energy on something else, if necessary. One of the ways that we can help is to make sure that the house is clean. Whether it be the kitchen, living room, bathroom, etc … my mother is always so happy when we get it neat and orderly without having to be told to do so!
We should also look for ways to help our fathers. This can vary depending on what type of job our father may have. My father is a carpenter and doesn’t usually have things for us to do as far as work is concerned. But we do help him out by getting up in the morning and making his breakfast and lunch (as well as my brother’s). Sometimes my father will ask me to research something for him, or make a phone call, or write an email. It may not seem like much, but it is another way to help out.
I pray that each one of you will be blessed as you serve the Father, that you will draw closer and closer to Him, and that He will give you the desires of your heart as you put your trust in Him.