Contrary to those in the feminist movement, I am happy being who Elohim created me to be. Men are the hunter/gatherers, while women are the nurturers. We bring life into the world. We instill into our children softness, which balances out the toughness instilled by the fathers. We are called “homemakers”, and actually we do make the home. It can be a haven or it can be the opposite. It mostly depends on our attitude.
Unfortunately, the world system and satan has done its damage to women, making them feel that unless they work outside the home, they cannot be “fulfilled”. How sad for those who believe that lie. They live their married lives in discontent because they have bought into that lie. They work outside the home and try to juggle home-life with work-life, and believe me, it cannot be done successfully. It proves what Yehoshua said, that man cannot serve two masters.
Everyone suffers in that situation. The children, because their mother is not there when they need her and so they miss out on what they need to learn and know during their growing-up years. The husband, because his helpmeet is off trying to prove herself in the workforce rather than being all she is supposed to be for him. And the home suffers, too. She is not there to do all that needs to be done to make a house the haven it is supposed to be for her husband and children. She struggles to try and keep the house clean, clothes washed up, dishes done, healthy meals cooked.
It is a struggle that Father never meant for her to get involved in. Many times, her work hours do not coincide with her husband’s, nor with her children’s school hours, and so she cannot have a meal on the table when her husband comes home from work, and she is not there when her children return home from school. They become “latch-key” children, coming home to an empty house with no supervision for sometimes several hours at a time.
I overheard a man say that today’s children have no “stories”. Meaning, they have nothing of interest to pass on to their children. They sit at computers or play video games for hours on end, or watch TV. My husband can entertain people for hours with stories he has gathered from his youth. Like the time he had a pet fox and tried to walk it on a leash. It became a question of who was walking who! Or the time his Dad wanted to cut the “stink” glands off a civet cat (a relative of the skunk), and had Jim hold it while he “operated”. Jim smelled of skunk for months afterwards!
I have stories, too. Like the time I climbed up a water tower with my cousin, or the time I tried to follow my Mama when she went berry- picking. I was barefoot and stepped in briars and stood and cried until my uncle came and carried me back to Grandma’s house. Or how when we would go on picnics, Daddy would bend down saplings for us girls to “ride” as horses.
It is sad, but true that most of today’s youth have no stories. I have been blessed to be able to stay home with my family all these years (45!). I was there when my children needed me, I built a solid relationship with my husband, and now we share our retirement years enjoying each other’s company. But building that kind of relationship takes years. I have seen women who pour all of their lives into her children, and when they are grown and gone, she has nothing to share with her husband. She did not learn to put him above the children. The Father’s plan is very important in marriage: Father and Son first, husband/wife next, then children.
I am not saying that this happens in all marriages where the husband and wife have nothing to share when the children are gone. In a home where both husband and wife and true believers, problems are nipped in the bud and never allowed to “flower”. Our children both believe that family is so very important. But they may not have if they had not seen family life in action all their growing-up years. I believe the wife/mother is the heart of a family unit. If she is at home to love, nurture and guide, then she will have passed on what her children will need to live happy lives with their mates, and that legacy will continue on to the next generation.