A fair maiden is locked high in a castle tower, waiting for her brave knight to come and free her from her long and seemingly endless imprisonment. An evil lord holds her captive, and all she can do is wait and then wait some more. Will her knight in shining armor never arrive? Are there any knights in the world that are willing to come and free her? Or is she doomed to spend the rest of her life captive in this tower called Waiting? Will she always be a prisoner to this captor called Singleness?
This may be a little over done, but it does get my point across. Most of us, at one time or another, feel like the maiden trapped in the tower of Singleness, waiting for the prince or knight in shining armor to come and rescue us. We all want to be that girl that got married right after she graduated; to that guy she had known forever. We at least want to be the girl that got married only a year or two after graduation. In reality, though, many of us will be in our mid to late twenties before we leave the tower of singleness.
We have a choice to make: are we going to see this tower we are in as a prison, or a wonderful opportunity? You can turn this time of singleness into some of the most fruitful years of your life, or you can waste them and spend them moping about, waiting until the day the man of your dreams comes for you. We must keep in mind that there always a danger when sitting and moping that you will see the first knight that comes along as “the one” even if he isn’t.
So, how do we turn this tower of Singleness into a place that we are not desperate to leave? How can we turn this so-called prison, into a place that we our contented to stay in as long as God wants us there? The answer is a simple one; you need to have a plan. When you get into your car you usually have an idea where you are going, and you chart your academic course carefully, but when it comes to what you are going to do between the time you graduate from school to the time you get married, most of us only have faint ideas of what we want to do.
Let’s get one thing cleared up before we go on. There is a big difference between plans and activity. When I say plans I mean goals and dreams, not a bible study and a list of books to read. Too many of us make the mistake of planning out things just to fill the time but not things that will be fulfilling.
What is your biggest dream in life? Do you want to become a published author? Do you want to learn how to take pictures like a professional? Do you want to start a small business, newsletter or girls group? Then now, while you are young and single, is the time to do those things. Reach for those dreams now, while you have the time. Having goals you want to reach before you get married can turn this tower into a place you almost wish you didn’t have to leave. It can turn your captor, Singleness, into a beloved friend, and it can help you weather these years with much more peace.
So, what are your plans, your dreams? Take the time to make a plan today. Don’t worry about missing the prince; in God’s timing he will come.