When it comes to relationships, there seems to be something that Christians often over-look. That something is this: Our lives are not about us, and what we feel; they are about God, and what He thinks and commands. Just because relationships are something very close to our hearts and near and dear to our emotions does not mean that we should follow our heart and emo- tions. The Bible states clearly that the heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick (Jeremiah 17:9, ESV). Personal experience proves this. Why, then should we follow it? Is it not God who should lead? When we choose God and His ways, our heart will follow. The heart needs to be the follower, not the leader.
Dating as the world dates does not make conditions conducive for putting our focus on God first. It’s easier to focus on our- selves and each other and neglect God. There seems to be fear about what God would tell us to do if we ever actually let Him have this part of our lives. We think that He might take away what we have. And the truth is, He might. God might take away what we have. In fact, He probably will. But only to give us something better. His best. Are we really satisfied with what we have, anyway? Is it making us happy? Are our hearts healthy, or are they in shreds?
We know that God looks on the heart, and not at outward appearances. That being the case does not negate the fact we do look on outward appearances. If we are not careful, we can base our conclusions about who people are solely on what they ap- pear like on the outside. So what should knowing this tendency about ourselves do for us? Should we capitalize on human weak- ness and dress and act in a way that draws attention to ourselves? Or is there a better way to go? My conclusion is that, yes, there is a better way. God’s way leads us to think differently, act differently, and dress differently from the rest of the world. To see differently. God wants us to see things differently – the way He sees them. God’s calls us to Holiness, Purity, and Modesty. For the sake of ourselves and our brothers and sisters, let us all take this calling seriously. Strive for it in our own lives; look for and encourage it in the lives of others.