The way a non-courting or “single” young lady should act or relate to young men and boys, is somewhat a confusing question. I am sure that the answer will vary from family to family and person to person.
In my own personal experience, I have seen and know people who don’t think you should even look at a guy, to those who allow their daughters to date.
From what I can see or remember in our family, it really varies to who we are with. No, I am not implying that we have different standards depending on who we are with – I’m just saying that with some families we know, I don’t think I have ever even talked to any of their sons other than thanking them, etc … but in other families, I am friends with their sons and I will even play sports with some guys.
But, I do think that us girls really need to watch how we relate to guys. If you ask one guy how he has been, he may thing nothing of it, but if you ask the same question to another guy, he may think you are being very forward by even talking to him.
I do think that it is definitely a good question to pray about, and also to ask your fathers/brothers about to see what their point of view is one the subject. Personally, I prefer to just talk with the girls because talking to a guy too much can be a bad thing, especially if you are talking to him just for the sake of talking to him. If you find yourself wanting to talk to a guy just for the sake of talking to him, then I think you do need to talk to your father about it, and what you are dealing with. I have done that quite a few times and it always makes me feel like he is watching out for me.
That’s all I have to say for now … and out of all my ramblings, I hope that you see that the answer to this question, is for you to pray about it and talk to your fathers/brothers.