About a year ago I wrote an article for SSM about my betrothal ceremony. Just one year ago … and what a year it has been!
You know how all your life as you grow up you long for and daydream about getting married and having babies? You know how you wonder if those things will ever happen?
Well, those dreams really did come true for me! As I take a moment to ponder what the last year has held, I am filled with contentment, thankfulness and joy. Those girlhood dreams do come true. I know hearing stories from others can really encourage me and I hope that as I tell you briefly about my last year that you will be encouraged also.
Joel and I were betrothed for about 6 months. My groom came for me in May 2009 and we were married in a park in Colorado! It was a glorious spring day and a joyful, wonderful wedding. I wish I could tell you all the details! One of my favourite parts of the wedding was the way we began. I was waiting across the park out of sight with my moms, sisters, and a few close friends when Joel, the dads, the brothers, and all 350 or so witnesses came singing and rejoicing across the park to get me! It was so neat and reminded me of the scripture that talks about Yeshua coming back for His bride with the host of heaven. It was so joyful, too! Everyone was clapping and singing and smiling so big! I could go on and on about the wedding, but there’s other things to tell.
After the wedding we moved to Canada and began to make our home. Life took on a simple, peaceful routine. Joel worked at his job and I unpacked and organized our home as well as doing the normal things we girls do around the home – the dishes, the laundry, the cooking, the cleaning. Something interesting from this phase of life was just how normal it was.
Of course I loved puttering around our little home, making things the way I liked them, enjoying the fact that I was working in my kitchen, cooking or cleaning for my husband, but what struck me after a few months was that I was doing pretty much the same stuff that I’d been doing for years and years! I found joy in it and still do, but I want to share with all you girls the reminder, the reality, that the things you are doing now in the day to day are pretty much the same things you will be doing in the day to day once you are married.
Married life is the best ever and I absolutely love it, but the routines are still the routines and it is good to keep that in mind.J If you find such routines a drudge now, they will become a drudge in marriage despite all your daydreams to the contrary. Find joy in them before you are married and you will find joy in them after you are married!
In July we discovered that I was pregnant! We rejoiced! I spent a few months feeling really icky but for the rest of the pregnancy I felt really good.
On March 6 we had our little girl! Giving birth was really hard work, it did hurt, my husband was calm and steady and amazing, and giving birth is really incredible. I really can’t wait to do it again!
We had a great midwife and a loving doula/friend there to help us. God worked out every little detail. We named our baby Kerenor Simkah. Kerenor is two Hebrew words combined and means “ray of light” (it rhymes with the name ‘Eleanor’) and Simkah is Hebrew for “joy”.
When I sit back and think of all that has happened, the changes in just one year, it kind of blows my mind! And yet, it has been so easy, so smooth, so right, so blessed. Sometimes I`m surprised at how easy the transitions have been and I can only conclude that it has been God’s grace given to me in a time of great change and adjustment. As each new thing has come, the only way I can really explain my reaction to it is that each thing simply is. I don’t know if that makes sense, but as friends have asked me about the changes or how the adjustments have been, that is all that comes to mind. Each new step is wonderful and exciting and yet the reality of such big things (becoming a wife, becoming pregnant, becoming a mother) sometimes fails to really sink in for me. Or perhaps it has sunk in and it is all just more peaceful and blessed than I ever thought it could be.
So, in review of the last year, I sit back for a moment as I’m pecking away one-handed at the keyboard because I’m nursing my 7-week-old baby while I type, and all I can think is, “Thank You, Father for all Your good gifts”, and “I am happy and content.” God’s timing and His control of each situation in our lives is so amazing! His love for each of us is so evident in how He provides and guides our lives! May you be encouraged to trust Him more and to wait on Him for the beautiful unfolding of His plans for you.