Do your days go something like this? …
“Kaela, can you come change the baby?”
“Kaela, I need help with my Math.”
“Kaela, I wanna snack.”
… Aaahhhh! It seems like whenever I sit down to try to work on my schoolwork, I always get interrupted with someone wanting or needing something. The only time I get much of my school (or whatever else) done, is when the baby and toddler take their nap! I sometimes think, “Wow, the kids who go to public school don’t get interrupted like I do!” Why can’t I ever get a few minutes to myself?! Yet, at other times, I ask myself, “How can the kids who go to public school do it? I would get so lonely without my parents, and brothers and sister being with me!”
So which is better? Being at home with my family, in natural family chaos, or being in a public school, away from the protection of my parents, and not building a stronger relationship with my family? I think it is better that we are at home. I think it is actually beneficial. I am learning from my Mom and Dad. They are my teachers. I think Biblically, they are the best people fit for the job! “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” Deuteronomy 6:7 “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4
Our parents are God ordained. God knew why you were put in your family. He knew that your parents could help you the most. As a family, we can learn from other’s mistakes, and if we choose to have a close relationship with our family, we can recognize each others weaknesses and encourage accordingly.
We also need to recognize our siblings’ gifts, talents, and personalities. One of my brothers is interested in Science, another brother enjoys History. I notice that if I am paying attention to their stories and fascinating facts that they want to share, they learn to trust me, and feel like someone else cares about their interests, too. When I show no desire, they don’t talk to me as much, and their creativity dies. Of course, I don’t want to pretend that I want to hear what they say, though. I want to learn to desire to talk with them.
I think the most important thing is to communicate with your siblings – and especially your parents. Talk to them about your problems. Make sure that you form a close relationship. We should feel comfortable with telling them our thoughts. If we have problems with our family, go to them and talk it out. We must remove the roots of bitterness. “Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble [you], and thereby many be defiled;” Hebrews 12:15
If we don’t start now, they will sink deeper, and deeper into our hearts. Communicate, encourage, and pray. Start to build a deep relationship-let that sink deeper and deeper! Build it up with your parents, siblings, and most importantly, the Lord. Do it now, it will only get harder the longer you wait.
I find it so helpful to read and play games with the younger ones. They look up to you! Pay attention to them. Ask them questions. They learn so much from watching you. Form good relationships – your family will become your best friends!