I am a home-school graduate living at home with my parents, four younger brothers, and a two year old sister on our organic farm in Virginia. It is my desire to one day be a godly wife and mother committed to furthering my husband’s vision and supporting him in his endeavors, training our children to honor and follow God, creating a cozy home for my family, and exhibiting characteristics similar to the woman described in Proverbs 31:10-31. I believe that the greatest preparation for this life-long occupation can be obtained by “training on the battleground”- my own home- as a single young woman. My focus is to spend these unmarried years developing necessary skills that will one day be a blessing to my future family.
During this deliberate and purposeful time of hands- on training and preparation, many aspects of home and business management are covered on a regular basis. My daily responsibilities include overseeing all household chores, tending to the kitchen and the preparation of meals, home-schooling my 2nd and 4th grade brothers, as well as a host of jobs related to our family’s farm and other businesses. I wash returned milk jars, fill farm product orders, do farm deliveries, prepare baked and canned goods to sell to our customers and at farmers markets, respond to email inquiries, prepare bank deposits, and occasionally milk cows and slaughter chickens. In addition, I handle all of the marketing and bookkeeping for my family’s tractor business, and spend a large part of my summer driving tractors and cutting grass on undeveloped lots.
In my free time, I also run several small businesses. I create coastal photograph note cards that have sold in a gift shop and an art gallery, and in the future I hope to expand to sell on an online website. I also enjoy baking cheesecakes for a restaurant. Seasonally, I sell clothing and other items on eBay. During the holidays, I operate a peanut gift box company.
I’ve always enjoyed helping my family with our real estate ventures, so during my senior year of high school, I completed the courses necessary to acquire my real estate brokers’ license and I am currently the listing agent on several properties. Through money I saved since I was 15 from working for my family’s lot cutting business, I purchased, at 19, my first investment property through a foreclosure sale and sold it a year later. Last summer I used the profit from that investment to buy another property and I am in the process of preparing to sell it as well. I have no desire to work full-time as a real estate broker, but I do see real estate as a way I can be like the woman in Proverbs 31, who “considers a field and buys it” (Proverbs 31:16). I hope to continue to buy and sell properties when I am married, but I plan to be very careful as to not allow my real estate pursuits to undermine my husband’s financial leadership or threaten to cause me to shift my focus from my primary life’s work as a help-meet to my husband.
I am so grateful for God’s calling on my life, centered around home and family. I love being an at-home daughter and greatly look forward to one day, Lord willing, transitioning to being an at-home wife and mother. With my home as my main domain, I have had so many opportunities to pursue infinitely more avenues than I would if I were confined to a full-time career.
Another reason I am thankful to live at home with my family during my unmarried years is because I am given the daily opportunity to strive to serve my parents and five siblings. Although I have so much to learn about selflessly serving others, I am confident that God is using these years of singleness to challenge, sharpen, and prepare me for one day serving my husband and children. I am learning that true fulfillment is found in following Christ’s example by pouring my life into others. A favorite verse of mine is 1 Peter 4:10: “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.” It is my prayer that I will use the gifts God has given me to serve my family so that He may be glorified through my life.