I used to read over verses like Titus 2:3-5 and think, “Oh, those verses don’t apply to me; they are for married ladies.”
To tell the truth, I didn’t even know what the words “discreet” and “chaste” meant!
So one day, as I was reading my Bible, I got curious and decided to look those words up. I am glad that I was curious enough to do so, because it has really changed my perspective on being a daughter at home! Will you join me in mining the truths of Titus 2:3-5?
First, I would like to look at verses 4 and 5, and then go back to verse 3:
“that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
Now let us begin our mining of verses 4 and 5, and see what priceless nuggets of truth we can uncover.
To be sober – this doesn’t mean we are to walk around with morbid expressions on our faces, like you may be inferring! Proverbs 17:22a and 15:13a say just the opposite”
“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine and maketh a cheerful countenance.”
Strong’s definition of the word sober is: “to make of sound mind – to discipline or correct: (teach) to be sober”. This definitely is an important thing for daughters at home to learn – self discipline.
If you can’t live a life of self-denial and routine now, how do you expect to do it when you have a husband and family for which to care?! Even if you think you will love your husband enough to do anything for him (which I hope you will!) such as getting up at 4:00am to make him breakfast, you will still need self-discipline. And it won’t come magically with marriage either. Remember, although you may be “crazy in love”, you are still human!
Some practical ways to practice self-discipline now are: setting your alarm clock – and obeying it (I must admit, this is something I find hard to do!), keeping your room orderly, making personal devotions and prayer a priority, memorizing scripture, and managing time wisely by setting limits to how much time you spend on the computer or reading books. Also, following a basic daily (work, play) routine can go a long way in living a disciplined life!
To love their husbands – you can start showing love to your future husband right now by praying for him, even if you most likely do not know who he is. God knows exactly which man you are praying for, even if you don’t! Just simply ask Him to give your future husband (Lord willing) spiritual wisdom and strength, and that he would guard his heart against the devil’s darts. Do pray for him, because both the young man and you (should you marry) will be blessed by it!
To love their children – most likely, you have younger brothers and sisters, or nieces and nephews, to whom you can show love and on whom you can practice your “mothering skills”. If not, there are other places to find children. Offer to babysit for a busy mother, work at a daycare, or volunteer at a library where there are younger children. A mother’s love (or the lack thereof) almost always leaves a life-long impact on children, so let’s be busy learning to love!
To be discreet – this word discreet has somewhat the same meaning as sober, but broader. Strong’s describes being discreet, as, “safe (sound) in mind; self-controlled (moderate as to opinion or passion): discreet, sober, temperate.”
The best word to sum up that definition would be sensible. To be able to think quickly, yet sensibly in emergency situations, is one important trait of a noble wife, that girls need to learn. So if you enjoy reading, read “sensible” books that will fill you with wisdom, not “vain wishes” as romance novels and such do.
Also, the “ornament of a meek and quiet spirit” (which is priceless), can be cultivated at home by cheerfully obeying our parents (if it is in accordance with the Bible, that is), keeping our tempers under control, and being peacemakers to our siblings. Establishing good eating habits also falls in the category of being discreet.
Chaste (pronounced like chased) – I love this word; it has such a pure ring to it! And it has a reason to, because that’s what chaste means: “clean, innocent, modest, perfect: chaste, clean, pure” (according to Strong’s concordance).
The topic of purity comes very close to home for us as young ladies. If you have now purposed to pray for your future husband to guard his heart, then why should you even think about exposing parts of your body that only he is rightfully allowed to see?? As aforementioned, reading romance novels will never lead to pure thoughts and sound thinking. Instead, read your Bible and focus on making Jesus your first love. Until He is the love of your life, you have no love worth offering another man.
Keepers at home – in this verse, the word keeper means “(a guard, be “ware”); a stayer at home, domestically inclined (a “good housekeeper”): keeper at home”.
What could better describe our calling as daughters and future wives, than that? Although we who are “stayers at home” are not entirely responsible for the affairs of the household, we play a vital role! Did you notice the first part of the definition of “keeper”? Yep, you read it right; it says be“ware”! This is one major way we can help out – acting as guards of our siblings. We must “beware” of how we act; it will influence them for right or wrong. The choice is ours.
The last part of the definition of keeper alludes to being homemakers in training; being willing workers and preparing to be the best wives we can be! Now going back to verse four, which says; “The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the younger women …” To you older women reading this, this is for you!
Please don’t give up on us younger girls, but be an example of true godly womanhood for us to look up to and learn from. Remember, the older you get, the more responsible you are to teach the younger ones what is right. In closing, I would just like to tell you to keep pressing on! I did not write this to discourage you (I know I was rather frank!) but to help you grasp the fullness of our calling as daughters, women and wives!
Authored by Alison S