What is singleness, really? Is it being alone? Is it not being married? Is it even what it says it is?
I think that being single is not a “status”. Sure, people put “single” as their Facebook status and are bent on letting the world know, “HEY!!!! I am SINGLE!!!!!” Maybe we should go back and try to figure out what singleness actually is.
Is it being alone? If singleness is “being alone” then I don’t think that anyone is single. If we are a believer, then Christ will never leave us nor forsake us. If we have a family, we are not alone. If we live in the middle of NYC, have never heard of Christ and work at The New York Times, we are not single. We have people around us all the time. If single meant being alone, then the only single people I know are hermits!
Is it not being married? Maybe this is a good definition for some people, but really? Not being married? Is that all singleness is about? Once again, this puts us with a “status”. Our status is not being married.
Singleness is something that the world has put so much focus on. In the world’s eyes, being single is great! You can pursue what you want to pursue. You can be YOU!! Life is all about you!
No! Singleness is not what the focus should be on. The focus should be on Christ! Christ is our stronghold and our anchor! We are not our own. We are bought with the precious blood of Jesus Christ!
If we are “single”, it is a status. It is something that we are focused on. We are either constantly thinking about the fact that we are single and need a husband, or we are constantly thinking about the fact that we are accomplishing so much and don’t have time for a family! Singleness is important to understand. When we understand that it is not a status but a life focused on Christ, it is something totally different.
A life of singleness should be a life focused on Christ! The Word of the LORD says, “There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.” (I Corinthians 7:34)
When we are single, we should be focused on the things of the LORD. Not only that but we should be holy in both body and in spirit! How are we holy in body and in spirit?
Being holy in the body is staying pure. Are we staying pure? Our lives should reflect what we believe. Do you believe in staying pure before marriage? Does your life demonstrate what you believe? Staying pure in body is what we, as single women, should be focused on. Staying pure does not necessarily mean saving sex till marriage – it is much deeper than that. When someone is staying pure until marriage, they are not throwing away their bodies. They are saving them till the LORD decides to bless them with a husband. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have saved everything for your husband? Your first kiss? First love letter? Your first physical touch? Your first everything? What a gift to present to your husband on your wedding day!
Not only should we be holy in body but we should also be holy in spirit. What does being holy in spirit mean? I think it is two things wrapped into one. We should be so focused on Christ that our spiritual life is a reflection of the holiness of Christ. Can others look at your life and see the holiness and purity of Christ? The other thing that is wrapped into spirit is our emotional life. Are you holy in your emotional life?
What is our emotional life? Our emotional life is our thought processes, our emotions and how we react to things. Is your emotional life holy? Are your thoughts constantly on the LORD? “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.” (Psalm 19:14)
What is the meditation of our hearts? What do we meditate on? As single girls are we meditating on the LORD or on guys? Or on our next adventure? Our thoughts should be holy. The next time your mind wanders to an impure thought, pray and seek the LORD for help. Both our bodies and our spirits should be holy.
Being single in so much more than a “status” or a simple word. Being single is focusing on Christ and Christ alone. It is also keeping our thought lives pure and not letting our emotions get the best of us. I encourage you to seek to become not just “single” but sold out for Christ. Let your life be an example of what living for the LORD truly looks like.
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