Independence: A Bad Idea
We are very independent people, especially as Americans. I mean, we set up this country because we wanted to be independent of England. I am not saying that was a bad move (on the contrary, I think it was a good move – no offense to my British friends!). I’m just saying that we pride ourselves on being independent.
Guess what? Ladies are not supposed to be independent. Is that shocking? Unfortunately, our culture encourages women to be independent.
Some definitions of the word independent include: “free from the control of others” and “not relying on others”. When we look at examples of single young women in the Bible, they are in their father’s houses … under his authority. We do not see examples of young ladies being independent, going here and there, doing this and that, etc.
I am not saying that it is a sin for a young lady to work or live outside of her parent’s home. I don’t think it is a good idea but I definitely do not want to put guilt or condemnation on anyone who finds themselves in circumstances that they cannot change. As a general rule, I believe that a young lady should remain in her father’s home until she marries. Not only is that the example that we see in the Scriptures but there are incredible benefits to be had as well. [Read more…]